During our journey of motherhood, many of us have wrestled with living out our version of perfectionism, and it has left us an emotional wreck. I’ve cried many tears when my perfect world collapsed after Child 1.
The new role of Mommy was a bit more challenging than I expected. Who knew?
My version of perfectionism, which I still battle with from time to time, involves having a clean and organized house where the laundry is always current and not past due; the dishes are clean and put away in the cabinets, not the dishwasher; and the bathroom counter is free from the invasion of hygiene-products.
I consider myself to be a very organized, in-control person; and somehow the task of being Mommy engulfed my perfect world leaving me with piles of laundry; dirty dishes on the stove and in the sink; and toothpaste, facial moisturizer, and make-up on the bathroom counter. Who knew?
Now that we are expecting Child 3 this year, I have learned to not be my worst critic and to take each and everyday one step at a time. I do not condone messy, filthy living conditions, but I know that I cannot be so hard on myself. A pile of dirty laundry, dirty dishes, and a messy counter are not what define me and does not devalue my role as a Mommy.
I now realize that true time-management and being a diligent worker are what count most- and most importantly, trusting in the Lord, Jesus Christ to direct me is as perfect as I can get in my journey of motherhood.
Proverbs 3:5-10 (KJV) reminds us to “Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all they ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil. It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones. Honour the LORD with thy substance, and with the firstfruits of all thine increase: So shall they barns be filled with plenty, and thy presses shall burst out with new wine.”
Consider your motherhood journey and your quest to live out your version of a perfect life as a Mommy. How can you assess and change your thoughts to thoughts of encouragement and trusting in the Lord? How can we support and encourage other Mommies to overcome conquering their version of perfectionism?
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